Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Week Four

Be Strong & Be Free
I will only feel I'm doing better when I feel the pain inside me and yet know how to fight against it.


"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

-Dr Seuss
 "In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself."
-Deepak Chopra

"Stop leaving & you will arrive. Stop searching & you will see. Stop running away & you will be found. Live life! "
-Paris Hilton


Dinner with our relative from Hongkong

 Early Reunion Dinner 1

           

 
 Meet my sister,Edwina!

"Live the life you want it to be, not let others lead you. "

Friday, January 18, 2013

Be strong, be freeee

"All women do have a different sense of sexuality, or sense of fun, or sense of like what's sexy or cool or tough. "
Angelina Jolie 



"Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love. "
Mother Teresa 


"A great figure or physique is nice, but it's self-confidence that makes someone really sexy. "
Vivica Fox 

Monday, January 14, 2013

Precious


After a week of not blogging. I tot maybe i should show some love to those who i love.
That's none other than Auntie Maggie.
Auntie, you're always in my heart. Love you much <3

Yup, I was just googling around and it's weird, i just don't know how i ended up in this site that showing me the definition of a rebound relationship and signs of a rebound relationship.
There goes..
Rebound Relationship:
A rebound relationship is one that occurs shortly after the break-up of a significant love relationship. If you are in a relationship but have distanced yourself emotionally from your relationship partner, you may begin a rebound relationship before you even leave the relationship you are in. If you move quickly from a long lasting relationship into another relationship then you are probably in a “rebound relationship."
Signs of a rebound relationship
If you’re in a rebound relationship, it’s always best to tell your new lover that you’re not ready for a serious relationship just yet.
It’ll help both of you take things slowly without too many expectations or heartbreaks.
Here are 15 rebound relationship signs that can help you understand the emotions you’re going through.
If you find that you’re experiencing more than a few of these signs, there’s a good chance you’re in love only to get over an older love!
#1 You just want to date someone, anyone. If you’ve been dumped by your ex or have experienced a bad relationship, you helplessly get drawn to anyone who gives you attention.
Your mind subconsciously wants to experience love again, and even if you want to avoid dating for a while, you can’t help but fall into the trap of love almost immediately.
#2 The sex is great. But you have no idea about how the relationship is going. You’re having a lot of fun in your new lover’s arms, but you don’t even know what kind of a relationship you’re in. You’re more focused on the fun part of the new romance than the serious parts that really matter in a new relationship. 
#3 You don’t remember how you got over your ex. It takes time to get over someone you truly loved. For some, it may take a few weeks and for others, it may take several months. If you’re already happy in a new relationship, but have no recollection of how you got over your ex, chances are you’ve rushed into something new before you could finish the last chapter of your old love. 
It’s a risky move because you’ve left the crucial ending unfinished and it may come back to haunt you when you’re having a rough patch in your new relationship.
#4 You often talk about your ex with your new partner. It may seem like you’re opening up to your new lover by frankly talking about your ex like you have no feelings for them. But deep inside, the whole reason you’re talking about your ex with anyone who cares to listen is because you still have feelings for them.
#5 You have mood swings. You may find yourself in a confused state of mind often even though you’re happy in your new romance. Almost always, you’ll be happy when you’re with your new squeeze but depressed and confused when you’re alone.
#6 You fantasize about your ex getting back to you. Do you spend a lot of time imagining scenarios that involve your ex? Do you like thinking about how your ex would feel seeing you in your new lover’s arms, or do you wonder if your ex is still thinking about you?
You may try to convince yourself that you’re over your ex and happy in a new relationship, but the fact that your ex still occupies so many of your happy thoughts means you’re still not over them. 
#7 Your friends are surprised to hear that you’re dating already. Your friends are at times the best judges of your dates and your love life. They can see the entire picture without being biased about your old relationship. If your friends think it’s too fast, it probably is.
#8 You keep your eyes open. You want attention. You just want to reassure yourself that you’re still hot stuff and can get attention whenever you want. You find yourself constantly looking out even though you’re in a new relationship already.
#9 You don’t try to take things slowly. If you’re truly in love, you’ll be afraid to take chances or make any hasty moves. But if you’re in a rebound relationship, all you’d want to do is go full speed ahead into the relationship because you don’t really care about losing your new love.
#10 You’re going with the flow. You’re not trying to make the relationship work. You’re happy and your new date is happy. You don’t look for ways to keep the relationship alive. All you want is someone who can hold you when you want to be held.
#11 Old love memories in the open. You still have photos or memorabilia of your ex and you find yourself staring at it now and then. You know it’s wrong, but you enjoy the torture of reminding yourself about the heartbreak. 
#12 You still feel weak when your ex says hello. Or you feel sick. Either ways, you experience extreme emotions when you see your ex. All you want is to be in a better place than your ex by ensuring that you’re in a relationship with someone else. You try hard to convince yourself that you’re now happier than ever before. 
#13 You look for ways to bump into your ex. You don’t voice it out, but deep inside, you wish you could bump into your ex again. You hang out in your ex’s favorite spots with your friends or even your new date, and secretly hope to see them again.
#14 You know you’ll go back into their arms if they make an effort to woo you.You may hate your ex or feel relieved to have ended the relationship with them. You may even be happy with your new partner. But deep down inside, you know you’ll step right back into your ex’s arms if they just make a sweet move at you. 
#15 You don’t feel like you’re serious about the relationship. There’s no bigger rebound relationship sign than this one. If you’re in a relationship for any reason but love, it’s a sure sign that you’re only passing through a rebound relationship to bide your time. 
Just because you’re experiencing these signs of a rebound relationship doesn’t mean your new found romance is doomed from the start.
These 15 rebound relationship signs can only reveal your current state of mind. The decision to enter the next phase of love or just play it casual is still in your own hands.

Hope after you guys read this post, you will really understand your relationship, your mind and your heart better. We gonna face the reality in life. Be strong and be freeee!

Edel

Friday, January 04, 2013

Men are from MARS. Women are from VENUS.

Firstly, really gonna thanks zk and glen for this book. I knew about this book long ago but i just couldn't make myself to read it. Even when i read it, i don't imply it. So what's the point of reading it?

Now..... it's all different! 
I took out the book and start reading it. Oh gosh, so true so true. Why didn't i used those approaches? Why did he reacted that way? We could have prevent all these from happening. All these came into my mind. Everything is too late to even have the slightest thought of it. So all i can do now, is to understand guys, is to understand myself that men are men and women are women. We are different and we have different needs. 

There are some points in the book which i think is really useful.
1)How to listen without getting angry?


2)How you may unknowingly turning off your partner?



3)How to give up changing a man?


4) WRITE LOVE LETTER/HEALING LETTER
By writing a letter, you tend to think. When you are thinking, you tend to put yourself in another partner's shoes. So i think this really helps in a relationship. 


Like now, i have stoned for an hour and i know whatever i wrote after this might or might not make sense. Regardless of horoscope, regardless of sex, regardless of religion, everyone have their different needs, it's hard to accommodate everyone. If you don't speak up, people might not know how are you feeling or what you want. So never assume everybody understand you, never assume everybody can put themselves in your shoes because everyone is different. So how about let's start from "me", trying to put myself in other's shoes first. With that, i might also control my emotions and etc. Always rmb to start from yourself. Think Think Think Think.

This photo that I have edited is really making me laugh. 
Laughing at myself for being blinded. But fret not, i am stronger now. 

Edel

Thursday, January 03, 2013

A for Appreciate!

Good day, everyone!

Started my day off with Mocha frap. Appetite coming back to me slowly but surely.  

Not a good start this morning thou. When i woke up i received a shocking message. Didn't know that what ever i said to people, makes a very big impact in their life. Oh dear! It can be good, it can be bad. I just want you guys to think & never ever follow my footsteps. As much as i care, i hope you guys think for yourself too. 

Drop that beat!

I wanted to talk about people, people who are close to me, people who care for me, people who supported me, people who i can call them as friends, people who i really appreciate them a lot. 

Here goes...

Number 1: My dad & mum


They are the one who consistently giving me advises, be it what happened, they will still be there for me. The unconditional love that they give, i will really appreciate it. And how i am today is all because of my parents. They brought me up in a very strict manner. I couldn't do a lot of stuffs which my friends are doing. But now i truly understand why. Thank you,mum & dad. 

Number 2: My siblings & Jeannette
Knowing that when i am at my deepest point, I know one way or the other, they are actually very concerned about me. Especially my big brother. Kor, don't kay kay la. You just don't know how to show it out but i know you love all of us one. Hehe. 

Number 3: My dearest auntie maggie

She is somebody who is so dear to me. There are no other words that can describe how much she really mean to me. Be it what happen in the future, you will definitely and will always be in my heart. Thank you,auntie for being there for me always. Love you

Number 4: My cousins 
Those cousins that have been guiding me, keeping me accompany and stuffs. Really appreciate it. I hope for the younger ones, you guys can get advises from us as we really been thru more. You will only think better if someone is there with a clearer mind, else you will never get the picture right.

Number 5: My friends

Words cannot describe how thankful and appreciate i am, for having them. They guided me, they gave me advises, they are always there for me, and lastly, they are there supporting me be it what decision i made. Especially some of you, you guys have really play a part in making me to be a stronger person. Greatly appreciated. 


I couldn't ask for more. Can i?

Signing off,
Edel


  Be strong and free



Wednesday, January 02, 2013

2nd day of 2013

Firstly, Happy New Year to all of you!It's been years i last blogged. Looking back, there's plenty of memories,plenty.One way or the other, i have learnt alot in life - Good and bad.

The reason, why i started blogging because i know in life there's not only sad moments, there are pretty sweet and nice moments that are worth remembering too. 

There goes, 
my 2013 resolutions:

    1. Be strong, Be firm
    2. Open my heart
    3. Spend quality time with my family and friends
    4. ENJOY WHILE I CAN!

What's yours?